Back in my early twenties I set some big material goals. Owning a very large house, a sports car and a grand piano were what my mind told me financial success looked like, and I wanted it. Back then, through naivety, I shared these goals with anyone who’d listen intent on making them as real as I could in my mind to keep me on track until I achieved them.
Don’t get me wrong, I had some great goals around giving others gainful employment, supporting charities etc but this post is about material goals. Now, what sort of reaction do you think I generally got. Pats on the back for thinking big? Curious questions on my strategy to achieve such massive goals? I think you already know what the reactions largely were.
Negative. Not just negative though, judgemental too. Why are you so materialistic? There’s more to life than money. It won’t make you happy. Why don’t you just be realistic?
I think the latter was the worst one. Who ever achieves something great in their lives, in business, in any arena by being realistic?
It’s expected that most people will have a goal to be a homeowner, and that’s a respectable goal. But to say you want a large, expensive home, that’s not cool. Learning to drive is a fabulous goal which gives you independence, but wanting to drive a Bentley GT, that’s ostentatious.
Now your goals may not be monetary or if they are, they might be on less of a grand scale and that’s OK. I’m not saying you should have massive financial or material goals. What I’m saying is if you do, that’s OK too! Don’t be embarrassed, don’t let other people put you down and make out it’s something to be ashamed of because it’s not.
Those people you see driving round in the Ferraris and Bentleys are often business owners, doing all they can to fuel their local and national economies; they’re sports people who have gotten to the top of their fields, or they’re people who have maybe given up holidays for years in their quest to own their dream motor.
So without fear of judgement I’ll tell you I’m working towards getting another Bentley this year. I was lucky enough to be driving a beautiful black GT just 3 years ago but I gave it up when I was pregnant and couldn’t get in our out without some sort of pulley system. I’m not proving anything to anyone, I just love the driving style and the aesthetic of a Bentley.
Now you. Do you have a material goal you’d love to achieve? One you’ve dared not voice for fear of judgement… Tell me! I would love to cheer each and every one of you on in your quest. It isn’t selfish to enjoy some luxuries for yourself. We all work hard, so why not?
You can also comment here on each other’s goals but I’ll moderate anything which isn’t in the spirit of this page. Let’s be supportive and not judge. I am also giving away a £50 Amazon gift card to get one of you started towards your goal!
PS. I achieved all 3 of those goals from my early 20s at the age of 26. You can too!